Why is it that when I set a rule for myself ("Don't do X!"), some part of me takes great pleasure in rebelling and doing X immediately? It makes it so hard to be good.

It works better if I say "Do more Y!" instead, hoping to get the intended side effect. E.g., not "No more croissants!" but "Eat more vegetables!", hoping I will be satiated after eating a large bowl of peas and won't want any croissants.

However, the best, trickiest indirect goals can be difficult to determine and phrase.

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